The world of social media is a fickle world. You can follow, unfollow, befriend, unfriend, block and unblock as often as you like. You don’t have to look people in the eye as you do any of these.
You can follow the lives of celebrities as easy as the lives of people you’ve known for years. The problem is the ease of all the above.
So you haven’t spoken for a while, you’ve fallen out with them, they’ve done something you don’t agree with or any other reason you can think of, what do you do?
As I’ve said, you can make any decision without having to look these people in the eye and tell them what’s bothering you. You can hit one button and that’s it, no further contact.
Do you think however, at any point, what the other person will feel like when they realise that they’ve been unfriended or blocked? When they see a mutual friend comment on you post, click on your profile and see the words ‘Add Friend’?
Well I can tell you what it feels like. IT HURTS! It causes a warm sickening feeling that makes your heart beat a little faster. We might not have kept in touch as often as perhaps we should have, we may not have spoken for a long time, but some of us consider that we are life long friends.
How they feel about it, I’ll never know and that’s the whole point, you don’t have to tell me. I drop and innocuous message pretending that I haven’t noticed to see if I get an answer. I might do, I might not. If I do however, I will always ask why. Why did you feel it easier to hit that blue button? Why did you feel it easier to do that than tell me what the matter is?
The other thing that this begs the question of is why didn’t you make more effort to stay in contact? I’ll freely admit that I’m rubbish at staying in touch. Life is so busy with work and family that I don’t always have the capacity to always be the first to message. I’ll like your posts on Facebook as I’m browsing through to let you know that I like what you’ve posted and that I’m still here but I don’t always have the time to write to you specifically.
So what I’m basically saying is that if you don’t want to be my ‘friend’ anymore, either virtual or real life, have the guts to say. Otherwise don’t play with my emotions or feelings.
As a side note, you may think reading this that I’m being pathetic or immature. You may be right, you might not. What I know is that these are my feelings and it’s not anyone to,tell me how i feel about it.
I would however, be interested in your feelings on this subject. Leave me a comment and let me know.